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Take Hold Of Every Moment

Posted by janet c. on 7/24/01 at 23:57 (054203)

Hi folks,

I received this in an e-mail recently, and I thought I'd share it with you all.

TAKE HOLD OF EVERY MOMENT

A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package:

'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.'
He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.

'She got this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on. Was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it.' He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothings he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died. He turned to me and said:

'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion'.

I still think those words changed my life.
Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend more time with my family, and less at work.
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day. I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it.
I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to. The words 'Someday...' and 'One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now. I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends.
She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favourite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come.
I would regret it, because I would no longer see the friends I would meet, letters... letters that I wanted to write 'One of these days'.
I would regret and feel sad, because I didn't say to my brothers and sons, not enough at least, how much I love them.
Now, I try not to delay, postpone or keep anything that could bring laughter and joy into our lives.
And, on each morning, I say to myself that this could be a special day.
Each day, each hour, each minute, is special.

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Necee on 7/25/01 at 00:35 (054212)

Hi Janet,
Thanks so much for sharing that with us!
How true your statements are. I'm also trying to enjoy life through this pain, things could be a lot worse. Even though I believe I've always been a caring and giving person there's always room for improvement. Going through this has expanded my ability to have more patience, take more time to stop and appreciate life, sit longer on the back porch and enjoy the many wonders that surround me, spend more time caring about others and doing for them which in turn brings me great joy. We should live each day as if it were our last, because it very well could be.
When I end a conversation with my family or friends, I always say 'I love you', because you just never know........
Best to You,
Necee

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Donna M on 7/25/01 at 00:46 (054214)

Hi Janet, and thanks! I think everyone can use some part of that! I agree also with what Necee said.
Like Necee, we not only tell each other 'I love you', but when we leave each other, we always wave good-bye, until we are out of each others sight. Now even both our son-in-laws do it to our daughters and others, and also our grandbabies 'expect' it from all of us! You never know when someone drives off, if you will ever see them again.
Live everyday as if it were your last, and you will have no regrets!
Thanks for giving us all something to think about.
Donna

Re: ~~~~~~HEY, DONNA~~~~~~~~

Necee on 7/25/01 at 00:51 (054215)

We are on line at the same time!!!
I've been bouncing around on the message boards and I see that you post about the same time as I do!
Thought I was the only NIGHT OWL! Ha!
Necee

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Laurie R on 7/25/01 at 01:06 (054217)

Dear janet,
Thank you so much for sharing this.... It is all so very true. life can be very short. I do have something very good to say about PF ... Out of all this terrible foot stuff and their is a lot of good that came out of it. One is I have met everyone here and I have made a lot of friends. Also from this very bad foot I do get to stay home with my kids. That is the best part about PF.. Yes I am in pain everyday ,somedays I don't know how I am even going to get though it.. I try to find the positive in everything and their is always a positive even with PF...

Thanks again Janet.... Your friend , Laurie R

Re: ~~~~~~HEY, DONNA~~~~~~~~

Donna M on 7/25/01 at 01:15 (054220)

Hey, I'm always up it seem like! Here lately I have only been getting about 2-3 hours sleep a night!! My dr. gave me Sonata, to make me sleep, but they are like taking Tylenol! So here I am!!
Why are you up so late?
Donna

Re: ~~~~~~NIGHT OWLS~~~~~~~~

Necee on 7/25/01 at 01:26 (054222)

Don't know why I'm still here, just not sleepy, since I'm off work, I've gotten spoiled to sleeping in!!!
Better enjoy it while I can, I get back to the grindstone next week.
How are you?
Necee

Re: To Laurie R~~~~~~Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Necee on 7/25/01 at 01:31 (054224)

Hi Laurie,
Hang in there, I know your in pain but I'm thinking about ya and praying that things get better.
Like you said, good things have happened because of our pain. We all have made new friendships with others that truly understand.
For that I'm very thankful!
Take care friend,
Necee

Re: ~~~~~~NIGHT OWLS~~~~~~~~

Necee on 7/25/01 at 01:46 (054229)

Had a thought~~~~~~~~~~~ Just think, the rest of them are all snuggled in their beds with visions of pain free feet dancing in their heads!!!!!!!
Necee P.S. Guess I better go........I'm gettin sleepy!!!!!

Re: ~~~~~~NIGHT OWLS~~~~~~~~

Donna M on 7/25/01 at 01:48 (054231)

TAKE CARE and I hope you sleep good too!!

Donna

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Cynthia D on 7/25/01 at 09:42 (054265)

Oh, Janet, that's so sad but beautiful! These days, everyone's so busy, it's so important to take time to smell the roses! A few days ago I was driving and on an important phone call at the same time. I saw the cutest two black puppies I was just dying to hug! I asked my caller to hold, pulled over, and asked the dog's owner if I could pet them. It was the highlight of my day!!

Take time to slow down and smell the roses!

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Necee on 7/25/01 at 00:35 (054212)

Hi Janet,
Thanks so much for sharing that with us!
How true your statements are. I'm also trying to enjoy life through this pain, things could be a lot worse. Even though I believe I've always been a caring and giving person there's always room for improvement. Going through this has expanded my ability to have more patience, take more time to stop and appreciate life, sit longer on the back porch and enjoy the many wonders that surround me, spend more time caring about others and doing for them which in turn brings me great joy. We should live each day as if it were our last, because it very well could be.
When I end a conversation with my family or friends, I always say 'I love you', because you just never know........
Best to You,
Necee

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Donna M on 7/25/01 at 00:46 (054214)

Hi Janet, and thanks! I think everyone can use some part of that! I agree also with what Necee said.
Like Necee, we not only tell each other 'I love you', but when we leave each other, we always wave good-bye, until we are out of each others sight. Now even both our son-in-laws do it to our daughters and others, and also our grandbabies 'expect' it from all of us! You never know when someone drives off, if you will ever see them again.
Live everyday as if it were your last, and you will have no regrets!
Thanks for giving us all something to think about.
Donna

Re: ~~~~~~HEY, DONNA~~~~~~~~

Necee on 7/25/01 at 00:51 (054215)

We are on line at the same time!!!
I've been bouncing around on the message boards and I see that you post about the same time as I do!
Thought I was the only NIGHT OWL! Ha!
Necee

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Laurie R on 7/25/01 at 01:06 (054217)

Dear janet,
Thank you so much for sharing this.... It is all so very true. life can be very short. I do have something very good to say about PF ... Out of all this terrible foot stuff and their is a lot of good that came out of it. One is I have met everyone here and I have made a lot of friends. Also from this very bad foot I do get to stay home with my kids. That is the best part about PF.. Yes I am in pain everyday ,somedays I don't know how I am even going to get though it.. I try to find the positive in everything and their is always a positive even with PF...

Thanks again Janet.... Your friend , Laurie R

Re: ~~~~~~HEY, DONNA~~~~~~~~

Donna M on 7/25/01 at 01:15 (054220)

Hey, I'm always up it seem like! Here lately I have only been getting about 2-3 hours sleep a night!! My dr. gave me Sonata, to make me sleep, but they are like taking Tylenol! So here I am!!
Why are you up so late?
Donna

Re: ~~~~~~NIGHT OWLS~~~~~~~~

Necee on 7/25/01 at 01:26 (054222)

Don't know why I'm still here, just not sleepy, since I'm off work, I've gotten spoiled to sleeping in!!!
Better enjoy it while I can, I get back to the grindstone next week.
How are you?
Necee

Re: To Laurie R~~~~~~Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Necee on 7/25/01 at 01:31 (054224)

Hi Laurie,
Hang in there, I know your in pain but I'm thinking about ya and praying that things get better.
Like you said, good things have happened because of our pain. We all have made new friendships with others that truly understand.
For that I'm very thankful!
Take care friend,
Necee

Re: ~~~~~~NIGHT OWLS~~~~~~~~

Necee on 7/25/01 at 01:46 (054229)

Had a thought~~~~~~~~~~~ Just think, the rest of them are all snuggled in their beds with visions of pain free feet dancing in their heads!!!!!!!
Necee P.S. Guess I better go........I'm gettin sleepy!!!!!

Re: ~~~~~~NIGHT OWLS~~~~~~~~

Donna M on 7/25/01 at 01:48 (054231)

TAKE CARE and I hope you sleep good too!!

Donna

Re: Take Hold Of Every Moment

Cynthia D on 7/25/01 at 09:42 (054265)

Oh, Janet, that's so sad but beautiful! These days, everyone's so busy, it's so important to take time to smell the roses! A few days ago I was driving and on an important phone call at the same time. I saw the cutest two black puppies I was just dying to hug! I asked my caller to hold, pulled over, and asked the dog's owner if I could pet them. It was the highlight of my day!!

Take time to slow down and smell the roses!