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PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Posted by LisaG on 8/09/01 at 02:23 (056001)

I was just recently diagnosed with PF. I have 4 kids ranging in age from 3 up to 13. I get the feeling that no one really knows how painful this condition is! Very little support. The doctor says try to rest...yeah, right...a bit difficult with 4 kids at home to take care of. It's so depressing...the house looks like an absolute pigsty and I feel like I've suddenly become a lazy, neglectful mom! The pain has been so bad sometimes that I'm in tears (this from someone who experienced four hard, natural labors with NO epidural!).
I had my first cortisone shot today...it hurt bad while being administered, but most of the pain from PF was wiped out almost immediately. However, I know it's probably very temporary and I'm scared to death to take advantage of it and go for a nice walk around the neighborhood. Anyone else in a similar situation...I desperately need someone to talk to who's been there! (hanks for listening to me gripe...sorry it's so long!)

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Julie on 8/09/01 at 03:30 (056006)

Hi Lisa

We've all been there (though I have to admit I don't have four kids, which must make things MUCH more difficult) and you'll get lots of responses and support here.

You need information too, though. Read the heel pain book and educate yourself about PF. You'll feel that you have more control over your situation, and it will also help you know what to look for as far as a treatment plan goes- and to participate actively in it.

Is the doctor who gave you the cortisone shot a podiatrist? If so, what other treatments has he suggested? If not, you really should see one - or someone else who specializes in feet, an orthopaedist or sports medicine specialist.

If you post on the 'Ask the Foot Doctors' board, and say where you live, one of our resident doctors may be able to recommend someone in your area.

All good wishes, Julie

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Stephanie S. on 8/09/01 at 10:51 (056028)

Lisa..I've been in that same boat you are in now. I also have 4 small children ranging in age from 4 yrs old to 11 yrs old. It's hard, it's tough..you feel like the biggest slob ...and not the greatest mother at the time. I understand all those feelings..been there done that.

I heard the same thing 'rest and stay off feet'..that's an impossible thought..isn't it? Not something that you can 'truely' do..you still have to be wife and mom to 4 babies.

My advice...let the house go..I'm sure your husband see's you limping around the house as mine did me..let him pitch in and help...and the kid's..um...you said your oldest was 13yrs old? Old enough to help with the younger ones if asked...they must also know the pain you are in...the oldest one anyways.

The sooner you educate yourself on this PF...the more likely you are to heal from it...you will find alot of advice and support from all of us here. Be active in your treatment from the get go...know what your talking about ...have your question's ready for the next appointment.

I've had this PF for 2 yrs now..I'm on the better side now. I don't have the horrible morning pain anymore...I'm not limping around the house actually considering the thought of 'just crawling' there. I'd say ..I'm just at that 'achy' point. Not bad pain at all. Can still feel it...I know it's still there..and I'm careful now..as to what I do...and how I stand or bend over.

I used the nightsplints alot..that helped me with the morning pain...don't suggest trying to 'walk' in them to the potty for a midnight trip, but..

I had two cort.shots...painful...yikes..and took 1 steriod shot in the hip...that's the shot that really turned me around...plus the birk's and advice that I was given from friends here. Hey, I noticed Scott put up a link to Birk's...consider getting them. I still wear them...daily..I even wear them in the winter...( with white socks, John).

I know how your feeling right now..and if you'd like...my email is boog89@home.com ..email me anytime..or IM me..my buddy name is BoogGU..would love to talk!

Hope your day get's better..I'm off to the pool! Steph

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Clara on 8/09/01 at 13:57 (056045)

Hi Lisa!
WOW 4 kids - I have only 2, age 2 and 9.... I feel I have nothing to complain about!!! But the matter of fact, the kids helps me a lot, because I get so much love from them! It´s a pain very often, to not be that 'good mother' I want to be, but I know this will go away! Now I´m reading a very interesting book by Dr Phillip C McGraw 'Do what works, do what matters' And I love it!!! I think he´s been on 'Oprah'.

I hope you´ll get better soon, and remember, you always have us on the board!

Hugs from

Clara

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Heidi A on 8/09/01 at 14:21 (056053)

I too have children and was once a very athletic person (size 8). After the last 8 months of pain I am no longer athletic and am a size 12. Depression is now my middle name. I am now wearing a sleeping boot which helps with the morning pain. I am also wearing a walking boot during the day for the last 30 days. I can't have cortisone shots because I am allergic. I am taking Vioxx for anti-inflamatory. I feel like my life is turn upside down. The boots are starting to help only slightly and very slowly. You are right that no one seems to understand the extreme pain and throbbing involved with this problem. It's a catch 22 in that the more you weigh/the more pain is involved. Yet you can't excersize to lose weight because you are in so much pain - yuk. I feel for you and completely understand the depression. Hang in there.

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:20 (056054)

Hi, Julie...

Yes, the doctor is a female podiatrist. I've had two appointments with her so far...the first I left feeling like she had ignored my concerns (she simply suggested getting shoes with good arch support, stretching and rest). The second visit I felt much better about her...I think I did better at telling her how I couldn't go on this way, especially being a mom of 4. She explained the cortisone shot and all the possible side effects and I opted to go that route due to desperation for relief. She also took the time to answer any other questions I had on this visit. Now I feel that my care is probably pretty good, compared to some I've read about. However, I intend to educate myself as much as possible. Thank you for the suggestions and the support...it means a lot to me right now!

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:44 (056056)

Steph,

Hi! Thanks for the support. It's nice to know that there is someone else like me with 4 kids to take care of that's going through the same agony. How do you keep from getting depressed about not being able to do all the things you want to? Any tips?

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:46 (056057)

Clara,

Wow! I love all the support I'm getting here...maybe everything will be okay after all. I will definitely get that book...one of my passions is reading, and at least THAT is something I can sit and do! Thanks for the encouraging words...I'm trying to take it one day at a time!

Hugs back,

Lisa

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:48 (056059)

Okay, Heidi...we can be miserable together! Keep your chin up and I'll do the same! Thanks for your support. (By the way, how old are your kids?)

-Lisa

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Julie on 8/09/01 at 16:26 (056066)

Hi Lisa

When you read the heel pain book, look at the section on Taping in part 2. Taping rests the fascia by substituting its support for the support the arch has lost due to the injury to the fascia. Thus it is contributes to healing as well as relieving pain. I used the simplest, two-strip method for almost a year: I don't need it any more, but it was a great help while I did. If you have any questions about it, ask me and I'll try to help.

Did your podiatrist evaluate your gait? You need to find the cause of the problem: it could be that you have biomechanical faults such as excessive pronation, and if so, they need to be addressed, possibly with custom orthotics. If taping helps you, that is an indication that orthotics will help.

I'm glad she mentioned the importance of supportive shoes. Did she also tell you never to go barefoot? That's important: never, not even when you get up to go to the loo in the middle of the night. Birkenstocks have been invaluable to many of us - are you familiar with them?

Icing helps with inflammation- you can use real ice, wrapped in a towel, or a gel pack, or frozen peas. There is plenty of guidance on all these things in the heel pain book.

I agree with all the suggestions Steph gave you - and that book of Clara's sounds right up all our streets.

Good wishes, Julie

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Stephanie S. on 8/09/01 at 22:03 (056110)

Lisa...I'll give you my honest answer if you email me...sometimes just feel funny about things I post on the board...because 'everyone' reads them. Steph

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Dr. Chris Reynolds on 8/12/01 at 05:08 (056401)

Lisa, might be able to help you. Email me.

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Julie on 8/09/01 at 03:30 (056006)

Hi Lisa

We've all been there (though I have to admit I don't have four kids, which must make things MUCH more difficult) and you'll get lots of responses and support here.

You need information too, though. Read the heel pain book and educate yourself about PF. You'll feel that you have more control over your situation, and it will also help you know what to look for as far as a treatment plan goes- and to participate actively in it.

Is the doctor who gave you the cortisone shot a podiatrist? If so, what other treatments has he suggested? If not, you really should see one - or someone else who specializes in feet, an orthopaedist or sports medicine specialist.

If you post on the 'Ask the Foot Doctors' board, and say where you live, one of our resident doctors may be able to recommend someone in your area.

All good wishes, Julie

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Stephanie S. on 8/09/01 at 10:51 (056028)

Lisa..I've been in that same boat you are in now. I also have 4 small children ranging in age from 4 yrs old to 11 yrs old. It's hard, it's tough..you feel like the biggest slob ...and not the greatest mother at the time. I understand all those feelings..been there done that.

I heard the same thing 'rest and stay off feet'..that's an impossible thought..isn't it? Not something that you can 'truely' do..you still have to be wife and mom to 4 babies.

My advice...let the house go..I'm sure your husband see's you limping around the house as mine did me..let him pitch in and help...and the kid's..um...you said your oldest was 13yrs old? Old enough to help with the younger ones if asked...they must also know the pain you are in...the oldest one anyways.

The sooner you educate yourself on this PF...the more likely you are to heal from it...you will find alot of advice and support from all of us here. Be active in your treatment from the get go...know what your talking about ...have your question's ready for the next appointment.

I've had this PF for 2 yrs now..I'm on the better side now. I don't have the horrible morning pain anymore...I'm not limping around the house actually considering the thought of 'just crawling' there. I'd say ..I'm just at that 'achy' point. Not bad pain at all. Can still feel it...I know it's still there..and I'm careful now..as to what I do...and how I stand or bend over.

I used the nightsplints alot..that helped me with the morning pain...don't suggest trying to 'walk' in them to the potty for a midnight trip, but..

I had two cort.shots...painful...yikes..and took 1 steriod shot in the hip...that's the shot that really turned me around...plus the birk's and advice that I was given from friends here. Hey, I noticed Scott put up a link to Birk's...consider getting them. I still wear them...daily..I even wear them in the winter...( with white socks, John).

I know how your feeling right now..and if you'd like...my email is boog89@home.com ..email me anytime..or IM me..my buddy name is BoogGU..would love to talk!

Hope your day get's better..I'm off to the pool! Steph

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Clara on 8/09/01 at 13:57 (056045)

Hi Lisa!
WOW 4 kids - I have only 2, age 2 and 9.... I feel I have nothing to complain about!!! But the matter of fact, the kids helps me a lot, because I get so much love from them! It´s a pain very often, to not be that 'good mother' I want to be, but I know this will go away! Now I´m reading a very interesting book by Dr Phillip C McGraw 'Do what works, do what matters' And I love it!!! I think he´s been on 'Oprah'.

I hope you´ll get better soon, and remember, you always have us on the board!

Hugs from

Clara

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Heidi A on 8/09/01 at 14:21 (056053)

I too have children and was once a very athletic person (size 8). After the last 8 months of pain I am no longer athletic and am a size 12. Depression is now my middle name. I am now wearing a sleeping boot which helps with the morning pain. I am also wearing a walking boot during the day for the last 30 days. I can't have cortisone shots because I am allergic. I am taking Vioxx for anti-inflamatory. I feel like my life is turn upside down. The boots are starting to help only slightly and very slowly. You are right that no one seems to understand the extreme pain and throbbing involved with this problem. It's a catch 22 in that the more you weigh/the more pain is involved. Yet you can't excersize to lose weight because you are in so much pain - yuk. I feel for you and completely understand the depression. Hang in there.

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:20 (056054)

Hi, Julie...

Yes, the doctor is a female podiatrist. I've had two appointments with her so far...the first I left feeling like she had ignored my concerns (she simply suggested getting shoes with good arch support, stretching and rest). The second visit I felt much better about her...I think I did better at telling her how I couldn't go on this way, especially being a mom of 4. She explained the cortisone shot and all the possible side effects and I opted to go that route due to desperation for relief. She also took the time to answer any other questions I had on this visit. Now I feel that my care is probably pretty good, compared to some I've read about. However, I intend to educate myself as much as possible. Thank you for the suggestions and the support...it means a lot to me right now!

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:44 (056056)

Steph,

Hi! Thanks for the support. It's nice to know that there is someone else like me with 4 kids to take care of that's going through the same agony. How do you keep from getting depressed about not being able to do all the things you want to? Any tips?

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:46 (056057)

Clara,

Wow! I love all the support I'm getting here...maybe everything will be okay after all. I will definitely get that book...one of my passions is reading, and at least THAT is something I can sit and do! Thanks for the encouraging words...I'm trying to take it one day at a time!

Hugs back,

Lisa

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

LisaG on 8/09/01 at 15:48 (056059)

Okay, Heidi...we can be miserable together! Keep your chin up and I'll do the same! Thanks for your support. (By the way, how old are your kids?)

-Lisa

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Julie on 8/09/01 at 16:26 (056066)

Hi Lisa

When you read the heel pain book, look at the section on Taping in part 2. Taping rests the fascia by substituting its support for the support the arch has lost due to the injury to the fascia. Thus it is contributes to healing as well as relieving pain. I used the simplest, two-strip method for almost a year: I don't need it any more, but it was a great help while I did. If you have any questions about it, ask me and I'll try to help.

Did your podiatrist evaluate your gait? You need to find the cause of the problem: it could be that you have biomechanical faults such as excessive pronation, and if so, they need to be addressed, possibly with custom orthotics. If taping helps you, that is an indication that orthotics will help.

I'm glad she mentioned the importance of supportive shoes. Did she also tell you never to go barefoot? That's important: never, not even when you get up to go to the loo in the middle of the night. Birkenstocks have been invaluable to many of us - are you familiar with them?

Icing helps with inflammation- you can use real ice, wrapped in a towel, or a gel pack, or frozen peas. There is plenty of guidance on all these things in the heel pain book.

I agree with all the suggestions Steph gave you - and that book of Clara's sounds right up all our streets.

Good wishes, Julie

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Stephanie S. on 8/09/01 at 22:03 (056110)

Lisa...I'll give you my honest answer if you email me...sometimes just feel funny about things I post on the board...because 'everyone' reads them. Steph

Re: PF with 4 kids...oh, what to do!!!

Dr. Chris Reynolds on 8/12/01 at 05:08 (056401)

Lisa, might be able to help you. Email me.