Are we hurting?Posted by Necee on 3/20/03 at 11:38 (113640)
In regards to all the events taking place these days, I was just curious......how bad are everyones feet hurting now? In my opinion, mind over matter is a powerful thing! It seems like my thoughts have been turned more towards those in harms way, those brave young men and women. I'm not saying I don't hurt anymore, it just seems like I can take the pain better.
Anyone else experience this?
Re: Are we hurting?marie on 3/20/03 at 11:52 (113645)
Distration helps alot. I find I do best when I have something other than my feet and legs on my mind. I have been walking so well lately. Don't need my wheel chair. Finally feel good but still walk like a duck. Maybe I can start a new dance craze 'The Duck Walk'.
Re: Are we hurting?Suzanne D on 3/20/03 at 12:10 (113646)
I have been noticing, Necee, that my feet have felt better since the weather warmed up here in Kentucky. At least that's what I attribute it to. I usually have plenty of distractions with my room full of first graders :-), but I have been noticing significant improvement as warm weather returned.
The world situation does help us keep everything in perspective, though, doesn't it? This morning, for instance, I found myself last to leave my home and without the keys I needed to drive to school! (Long story - everyone busy and borrowed keys didn't get given back to me). To make matters worse, our phone went dead yesterday. Luckily I had a cell phone to use and had to call school and ask that someone come (5 miles) to pick me up. As I stood in the driveway waiting with my dog sniffing my Lean Cuisine lunch in my school bag (I would say he was concerned and waiting with me, but I think he just smelled my lunch!), I thought to myself, 'This is nothing. Think of the soldiers.' I arrived a little late, but I made it. The fact that the dog got mud on my pants was not earth-shattering, either.
Re: Are we hurting?Necee on 3/20/03 at 13:59 (113651)
Marie, you mentioned walking like a duck....that is the chat name Wendy N uses.....Walkslikeaduck. Don't know if she still uses it, I haven't noticed her name pop up when we are chatting in quite some time.
Re: Are we hurting?Bev N on 3/20/03 at 18:20 (113669)
Necee, I may try to forget about the pain, however every step I take keeps reminding me of it - darn. However, our thoughts are elsewhere now and we have a lot more on our minds with our prayers for our soldiers. Have a nice evening. Bev
Re: YesCarole C in NOLA on 3/20/03 at 19:59 (113679)
I have been very sad lately, and you know how PF and depression go together. I think the sadness is due to my brother's stroke and brain edema, and Frank taking a permanent job in CT, and the war, events on the board, and a few dozen similar things hitting me all at once this week. So I am hoping it will disappear on its own. If it doesn't I'll see a doctor.
Meanwhile, I have been wearing my Fuldas a lot and trying not to hurt my feet which are feeling tight and problematic. I've stopped going barefoot much, for now.
Re: YesSharon W on 3/20/03 at 21:13 (113685)
It does sound like you are probably suffering from the physical effects of stress overload.
When my sister was in the surgical ICU after a questionable surgical result, my pain level shot way up and my symptoms got much worse. It continued to get worse as my sister got worse... Although, oddly enough, they gradually got a little better after she died.
I don't think anyone fully (100%) understands the link between stress and pain, or for that matter between stress and worsening of illness. But, as some cancer researchers have believed a long time, calm and relaxation do seem to be much more helpful for healing than extreme stress is. And pain management clinics all over the country now use meditation and relaxation techniques to help reduce pain levels...
I have been thinking of you and what you must be going through with your brother's stroke. I do hope he will be able, in time, to achieve a full recovery.
Re: YesCarole C in NOLA on 3/20/03 at 22:37 (113697)
Thanks, Sharon. I talked to him on the phone today for an hour or so. He said he feels a lot better physically, though not 100%. However his mental condition breaks my heart. He is the brightest and most creative person that I have ever known, with a happy go lucky personality. That's how he used to be.
Today he thought it was Sunday, even after being told several times during the conversation that it is Thursday. He couldn't remember things he had just said, and what's worse, he can still crack a joke but he cannot laugh. He knows this and brought it up; he said so trustingly that his doctor is going to 'fix it so that he can laugh again'. His thinking is very childlike, confused, and disoriented all at once. It's been about two weeks I think since the stroke. I asked him if his doctor gave him any treatment for the edema of the brain, and he didn't know of anything.
Thank goodness his very sensible son is taking care of him. The son is driving him to New York, where he lives, since Bob can't stay alone in Florida. Bob phoned me from where he was lying in the back seat of the car.
Re: YesSuzanne D on 3/21/03 at 08:10 (113713)
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your brother, Carole. I am sorry that this is a rough time for you.
My assistant's stroke last fall left her using a cane and having trouble remembering things. She very gradually improved, and I hope that will be the case with your brother. Her most recent stroke a couple of weeks ago did not leave the damage that the first one did. She is seeing another specialist next week. I remember her frustration when she told me that she would get out of the car and think, 'Where am I supposed to be going now?' The brain is so complex, and it is so sad to watch people we care about struggle with such difficulties.
Yes, wear your Fuldas and 'baby' your feet right now, Carole. We're pulling for you!
Re: Are we hurting?wendyn on 3/21/03 at 08:57 (113718)
That' right Necee (I decided after watching Dances with Wolves that my name should be Walks Like a Duck) - I never did reinstall the AOL messenger on my new computer. I found that it was WAY too easy for me to lose hours chatting on line that way.
I'm far too social to be responsible enough to shut it off when I should.
Re: To CaroleKathy G on 3/21/03 at 12:51 (113747)
Oh, Carole, I am so sorry. It never rains but it pours! The whole population, or at least those with brains, are feeling stressed about this war, whether one believes it is right or wrong. I had to turn off the TV last night because I found watching those tanks so upsetting. I would say that the general mood of the country is solemn.
Couple that with Frank's actions and your brother's stroke, you have reason to feel stressed. And no matter what your ailment is, be it feet or headaches or your back, it always is exacerbated by stress. So if your feet are your weak point, that's where the stress is going to manifest itself.
Treat yourself with kindness. Know that all of us are praying for you and your brother!
Re: YesCarole C in NOLA on 3/21/03 at 14:15 (113756)
Thanks, Suzanne. Bob is pretty scrambled but maybe he will improve, in time. I wore my Fuldas to work today, but had to leave early due to overwhelming sadness.
Re: To CaroleCarole C in NOLA on 3/21/03 at 14:20 (113758)
Thanks, Kathy. I do feel overwhelmed. I am like you about the TV. Sometimes I just have to get away from it for a while. I'm home now. If I don't feel better in a couple of weeks I will see a doctor.
Re: To CaroleBev N on 3/21/03 at 14:46 (113766)
Hi Carole, I have just caught up on the posts and I am so very sorry for what you are going through now. It is really nice of Bob's son to take him to NY and care for him , he must be a special son to do that. Will you be able to go and visit him at all? Will you get to see Frank now that he is working in CT. ? How are you feeling? Is your PF acting up again? I am ssooo sorry, you were doing sooo good with your feet too. You take care and keep in touch, okay? My sister is taking 3 months off work and may need to quit altogether , depending on the tests results. She was in hospital 4 days with every test available, and she is home now, and is going for more tests. She passes out for no reason at all. They told her it was 'all in her head' cause they could not find a cause , and they put her on drugs for depression and stuff. I call her every night to check on her and her fami
ly is there too, and are taking good care of her. (I don't know if I like this neurontin, I have to 'think' now before I hit the right keys now , and I never had to before :O( ) Anyway, have a nice evening and please tie a yellow ribbon around yoour tree for our troops. Bev
Re: To Carolemarie on 3/21/03 at 15:12 (113777)
Carole I want to tell how sorry I am about your brother and to hear how distressed you are. I am sure that it has been stressful for you. Everyone is on edge right now. I think it's human nature to try to gain some control over something we have no control over. The reactions we have sometimes aren't the real us. You are such a nice person I hate to see you in pain over silly ED, Brian,and John(who is usually a gentleman)and me. This board will eventually settle down. I have lost several freinds who use to feel this was a safe place to come and talk. I have strengthened the bond between myself and nancy and julie. They have become true freinds and it is sad that I can't come to this board and chat with them. For whatever reason I do care and like DR Ed, Brian, John . They have their views and I have mine and it's ok. Honestly who else would they have to bark at if I wasn't here.
My brother is ill too. He has progressive MS. I called him the other night and he is blind. Not his MS. They don't know what it is yet. If you knew my brother 30 years ago you would understand how hard it is to watch this dynamic person slowly fade away. He sponsored so many families that came here from Vietnam and opened his home to troubled kids. His heart is failing. His teeth are rotting away because he was on chemo for 7 years. The doctors haven't been able to stop the progress. He was exposed to quite a bit of agent orange in Veitnam the doctors feel it severely damaged his immune system but of course there is no confirmation of that. One of the side affects from the medicine he takes is suicide and we have been through it 3 times with him....he doesn't ever remember why or how he did it...the drugs are so intense. He doesn't even remember being upset he totally blacks out. 90% of his brain is covered in leisions. So you see I understand how hard it is to deal with a loved one that is sick...it's hell. Sometimes I think I have it tough but it's nothing compared to the years of suffering my brother has had. He never complains.
Take care and know that I am thinking of you. marie
Re: To CaroleBev N on 3/21/03 at 17:35 (113798)
Carole and Marie, My thoughts and prayers are with both of you. I went through 8 years caring for my mother during her illness and strokes, and it is so stressful and difficult. the only one who understood and helped me emotionally was someone from church who is a phycologist, and she helped me emotionally, as I really needed that badly. My daughter-in-law has MS also, it is very difficult - my heart goes out to you and him.
Take heart that we are here to 'talk' to as you need to. Have a nice evening. Bev
Re: MarieSharon W on 3/21/03 at 20:24 (113831)
Sorry to butt in, but -- my sister (the older one) has sarcoidosis, which (as I learned from my research) is sometimes be mistaken for MS if the tiny tumors (sarcoids) form on nerve tissue. Sarcoidosis can cause TTS or peripheral neuropathy. (The tiny tumors can form really anywhere in the body.)
That isn't what happened to my sister, though; the way she found out she had sarcoidosis was that she suddenly and inexplicably went blind.
Sarcoidosis is a very rare disease and it probably isn't what's going on with your brother. But, IF noone can figure out the blindness, it might be something worth asking about, just in case...
Re: Mariemarie on 3/22/03 at 07:16 (113867)
thanks for your input. the more ideas the better.